I am very, very much looking forward to BlogHer.
But fuck, I will be so glad when it’s over.
I don’t know when this conference (for some) and vacation (for most) and opportunity to meet people we all wish we had coffee with everyday (for all), became the next big fucking orgy but I’m just about over all of that. Sure it’s cute at the beginning. Now? Over it. Not “above” it, just over it.
People try too hard.
Oh goodness, with the trying too hard. I see it every. single. day. I see the ass kissing. I see the “teehee we have a secret reallysuperclose frienship and reallyfunny(nooneactuallygivesashit) inside jokes but we’re going to just make all of you feel stupid about it by tweeting nonsense sentences that mean something to one person who may or may not be seeing it but lets confuse the fuck out of the rest of you and hope that you envy us and our super duper awesome and exclusive only to us” bullshit.
Over that too.
Lest I be called a hypocrite, I’ve probably been guilty of this at least once. I never said I was perfect, just almost. And probably a little more than you. But either way.
~ Exclusive Blogher parties? Are stupid. I only know of one (Nikon party. Which, holy fuck I wish I had an invite to it because I have a love affair with my Nikon but what do they care? I’m just a CONSUMER. *cough*) and I think it alienates people when companies do that. Go for the RSVP, first come, first serve type shit. You snooze, you lose. Or even better, get a fucking booth and show your shit off to a hell of a lot more people, some of which might actually have money to afford your product. Because I don’t. But I want to look at the pretty new stuff tooooooo. And dream. Oh, the Nikon wet dreams….(btw, I don’t really need you to explain the purpose of an exclusive party. I’m not a child or an idiot. kthanxbai)
~ Hi. I’m Miss. I write this blog. I want to meet you. Yeah, you, reading. I want to meet you. I want you to say “hi. I’m *fill in the blank*. I read your blog. I follow you on twitter (but you don’t follow me you bitch)(I’ll follow back right then and there, technology lets me, promise).” Give me your card, or a scrap of paper with your URL. No, I don’t want your fucking sponsor’s card. Get that BS outta my face. You want to take a shot? Let’s do it. Pictures? Fo Sho.
~ I’m going to BlogHer to meet people. To cement certain friendships that I hope stay in my life forever. Confirm things I’m learning and have been learning in the last few weeks. There are two “conference” things I really want to see. I want some free shit. Most of all, I want to have a good time. I don’t want drama. I want laughter. Any situation that becomes complicated, or maybe if there’s an awkward moment when something that maybe should have been mentioned a week before but wasn’t and now its happening and whoops —- ah. Stop right there. I’m walking away. All that shit? You’ll be talking to my back because I don’t care now that it’s happening, now that you’re having your freak out moment or even lack of. We should probably just carefully pass one another and not say much. Because I’ll probably end up out smarting you with my words and no one wants that. I sure don’t. I hate drama. Drama is for people with uninteresting lives, looking for an excuse to feel important for even a minute.
~ Oh hey guess what? I’m packing skirts. And sundresses. And maybe 1 sexy dress. And threadless tees. Tank tops. And jeans. And sandals. And shoes that make my legs look good. I’m also getting a manicure/pedicure/and wax on Tuesday and a trim on Wednesday. Why? Not for you bitches. For me. Because I like to wear clothes I feel comfortable in. I like to have neat eyebrows. I like to have bangs that don’t hang in my eyes. I practically need my nails done to function and one of my toe nails has a chip and it makes me fucking crazy to look at. I feel better when I take care of myself and just because I’m not wearing sweatpants all weekend does not make me worried about what other people think of me. If you wanna wear sweatpants, then rock the fucking sweatpants. If you wanna wear designer shit, knock yourself out. Guess what? I can’t tell the difference. I care little about what you’re wearing, except if you mix florals with like verticle stripes or something. Then you’re hurting my eyes and you need to GTFO. Believe me, I’ll be the first to tell you that you look pretty.
Yeah yeah. I’m a bitch. But at least I’m an honest bitch.
And I really can’t wait until Thursday. I just want the weekend to go the way I want it to, with a lot of good memories and even better and new friendships.
Let’s go with the flow. Let’s enjoy each other. Have some fun.
Bring it on Chicago. Let’s do this.






















don’t tell my husband but I think Im in love with you!
youre so awesome and now I TOTALLY wish I WAS going so I could meet you!
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You are awesome. You just earned a friend with this post in me. THANK YOU.
I can’t WAIT! woot!
7DAYS!
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Well, you already know that we will be glued at the hip the entire trip … but, that’s how we like it!
As for the Nikon party … DAMN THEM! I want to be there! I want to oogle Nikon goodies! I want Nikon SWAG! *whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa*
As for packing … crap, I guess I should start doing laundry.
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Fuck yeah, baby.
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I am looking forward to the same things. And praying that those shoes I am bringing to make my legs look awesome don’t cripple me before the conference is over.
p.s. I’ll be the one at BowlHer demanding bowling shoes.
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Aww man. I SO wish I could go, but I’m sure ONE of these days I’ll get around meeting all the peeps I read online. (Especially if we ever set a date to go bowling/drinking…mostly drinking)
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WOW!!!! LOL
make sure u send pictures… LOADS of them!
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Is gay marriage legal in Illinois? Civil Unions maybe?
And yeah, we totally do that private joke thing. lol
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This post almost makes me sad about not going.
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Huh? They have a Nikon SWAG party?
Great post! Have fun! Maybe I’ll venture to next year’s!
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Bitch. But cool.
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This? Was awesome. Because life is really all about laughter and free shit. That’s what makes the world go ’round.
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You’re a liar. There’s no way you could possibly be a bitch after writing something like this. No no. You’ve got me thinking that maybe this will be a cool thing. Can you please clone yourself 1400 times? Thanks.
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So glad Maria pointed me this way. “Drama is for people with uninteresting lives, looking for an excuse to feel important for even a minute.” that is the most accurate statement I’ve read in a long time. I hope to avoid any drama and enjoy the conference and I wish the same for you.
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hi. I’m *hockeyman*. I read your blog. I follow you on twitter. Click my name for my blog but you knew that already. Since I’m not going to BlogHer so my wife can, I thought I’d pretend I was there for a minute in my comment and follow your script. Have fun!
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Just for you…. http://www.kirtsy.com/partyguide.php
I haven’t been exclusively invited to anything, but that list is handy.
Let me know which ones you go to or plan to go to!
Also, I read and still am around in the blogosphere…although much quieter now that I have like 80 bajillion things on my plate. But, I still read and make sure nobody is in jail, and is for the most part doing good
So, sorry I’ve been kind of MIA on the friend front. I do miss talking to you.
We need to make a point to meet up. Like, call my cell when you get to Chicago or something. I’m afraid you might miss me seeing that I’m so short and all. Although…Aurora is coming with, so you may be able to hear us a mile away if she gets pissed off. Or hungry. Or whatever.
See you soon! Can’t Wait!
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Private parties suck. I was invited to two and turned them down, telling the sponsors something akin to what you wrote. Plus I don’t want to give up my time to some fucking Timeshare corporate pitch. Weasels.
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I’m not going, but I’ll be there in spirit and in the area, too. If you are free to join the small caravan headed my way Fri night, just shout. Otherwise, I’m sure you’ll still have fun. I like your attitude about the whole thing.
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Can’t WAIT to meet you.
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I’m jealous of all you bitches going this year! Damnit! I hope you have a good time. Rock that shit.
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Wow. I’m not going to BlogHer
But if I were I’d want to meet you! I love your attitude.
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this has cemented my love of you.
<3
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Ah, I have no idea what the whole Blogher conference is like, but I’ve had similar experiences at “pro” kayaking events (‘exclusive’ parties, groups, etc). It always made me laugh. People naturally need to clique up, I guess that is just human nature. People also want to feel special. And companies want to score converts….. I’d be stoked to go to that Nikon part too though. I am sure you all are going to have a great time, I wish I could be there to meet you folks.
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So what you’re saying is – I should leave my sweatpants and crocs at home and bring my hot pants and stilettos instead? Deal.
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When I first heard that you were going to BlogHer I was like “Why? You blog like, what, twice a month?” I always thought that BlogHer was for Dooce and her cronies. I mean I wouldnt even go to Blog Her and I’m a daily blogger and I’m widely unpopular like all those others. But then you said that you’re going because you’re meeting your friends, and that made so much sense to me. I mean even if I was invited to something like that I probably wouldnt go because it’s so cliquie, and really you’re not that cliquie of a blogger. You post once in a blue moon, and we love you for it. And you’re a total URL nomad, which I want to strangle you for, for like one second as I’m updating my feed.
You’ve never struck me as the kind of person who would ever get caught up in a mess like BlogHer, which is why I love this post. You point out how fucking seriously people take this shit and it’s like WHY? Oh you blog? So do I! So does that guy who posts pictures of naked men!
It’s like some of these people get big heads because they get 20,000 hits a day. And the ones that do arent even entertaining to me.
You go have fun, and if you see Dooce punch her in the face for me.
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Wait. You’re over the orgy? I guess that means licking your face when I meet you is a no?
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Pictures? Oh yeah, there will be pictures.
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I can relate so well. It’s less than a week away, and I’m a bit over it, too.
Part of my wants to skip out on most of the BlogHer stuff and just hang out with people I’ve been waiting to meet.
Like you.
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I just wanna have fun… and meet people… and get lots of swag, oh.. and hug you.
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I’m the plus one at that Nikon party, but that’s the only “exclusive” I was “invited” to. I think I’m doing a good job at being a Secret Agent, yo. LOL
Oh and I’m CANON! Will they throw me out? Hopefully not. But if they do I’ll be shooting them… THE MIDDLE FINGER, YO!
Ohandi’mtotallygonnasqueeandscreamwhenimeetyoubabe!
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yeah, i guess i had no idea of “this” side of blogher. I have never gone, and I don’t know much about it but I know I hate it when adults behave like kids in high school. and exclusive parties? who decided who goes/doesn’t go? I’m curious to know. That’s a bunch of BS as far as I’m concerned.
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feisty much? lol
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I’m not even going to BlogHer and I still love this post. Dry hump some people for me.
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I’m pretty certain that you don’t really give a shit about what I say because of sticky divorces and shit. I don’t usually read your blog, but I’m glad I stumbled upon this. THIS. WAS. AWESOME. The fakeness of some people is disgusting, but the real friendships and supports that are attainable through the internet, twitter and blogs is rare. Don’t worry I’m not asking you to be my BFF or anything, just wanted to say that I love the honesty of this post–have a great time!
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I did not hug you near enough these past couple of days. This old lady couldn’t keep up with you.
And you may be a bitch, but a very hawt one at that, T’s, dresses you were sexy in whatevah. I’d hate you for your gorgeousness if I didn’t love you so much.
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Rawk it, baby. Awesomely bold.
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