Comments on: The One About the Mommy Wars http://www.justonemiss.com/2009/10/15/the-one-about-the-mommy-wars/ Say anything, but say what you mean. Tue, 07 Sep 2010 05:15:30 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Brittany at Mommy Words http://www.justonemiss.com/2009/10/15/the-one-about-the-mommy-wars/comment-page-1/#comment-2477 Brittany at Mommy Words Tue, 03 Nov 2009 18:19:51 +0000 http://www.justonemiss.com/?p=698#comment-2477 Amen! It is all ridiculous! I thought about devoting NaBloPoMo to all the things that mommydrama is stirred up over. I would make some besties and some would hate me right! There is SO much judgement. Just be nice! All us moms need a hug! BTW I am lucky to be able to SAH but I miss work every day. I chose to be at home with my kids and I know I am lucky to have this choice....but I TOTALLY get having to work and I TOTALLY get wanting to work. All is cool with me! Amen! It is all ridiculous! I thought about devoting NaBloPoMo to all the things that mommydrama is stirred up over. I would make some besties and some would hate me right! There is SO much judgement. Just be nice! All us moms need a hug!

BTW I am lucky to be able to SAH but I miss work every day. I chose to be at home with my kids and I know I am lucky to have this choice….but I TOTALLY get having to work and I TOTALLY get wanting to work. All is cool with me!

]]> By: Karen MEG http://www.justonemiss.com/2009/10/15/the-one-about-the-mommy-wars/comment-page-1/#comment-2470 Karen MEG Mon, 02 Nov 2009 02:55:22 +0000 http://www.justonemiss.com/?p=698#comment-2470 I missed this post...because I was off being a selfish working mom and trying to figure out how to work my blogging hobby into my "new" life. I don't get the bashing either...I've been a SAHM - and if I hadn't done that, I wouldn't have found my way into the blogging community, an amazing space and world that I would have never, ever discovered. So for that, and certainly for the quality time that I had with my kids, I will never, ever regret stepping out of the working out of the home world. I never thought I would EVER be a SAHM, but I did, and I did it for almost 5 years. It was a choice, and I was very lucky to have that choice. But the decision to go back to work, while pulling me in all sorts of directions, was the right one. The SAHM isn't for everyone - and I ultimatey decided that it wasn't for me anymore. I think the bitching at my husband every night about the trials of the day with the kids, well, that was an indication right there that the time was right. And the feeling of independence, of not having to rely on the one income, for me it's boosted my self-confidence back to the level where it used to be. I feel a lot more complete. But that's me. I agree with you 100%... we should support our sisters with whatever choices, decisions, lifestyles that they find themselves in. Glad to have you in my corner :). I missed this post…because I was off being a selfish working mom and trying to figure out how to work my blogging hobby into my “new” life.
I don’t get the bashing either…I’ve been a SAHM – and if I hadn’t done that, I wouldn’t have found my way into the blogging community, an amazing space and world that I would have never, ever discovered. So for that, and certainly for the quality time that I had with my kids, I will never, ever regret stepping out of the working out of the home world. I never thought I would EVER be a SAHM, but I did, and I did it for almost 5 years. It was a choice, and I was very lucky to have that choice.
But the decision to go back to work, while pulling me in all sorts of directions, was the right one. The SAHM isn’t for everyone – and I ultimatey decided that it wasn’t for me anymore. I think the bitching at my husband every night about the trials of the day with the kids, well, that was an indication right there that the time was right. And the feeling of independence, of not having to rely on the one income, for me it’s boosted my self-confidence back to the level where it used to be. I feel a lot more complete. But that’s me.

I agree with you 100%… we should support our sisters with whatever choices, decisions, lifestyles that they find themselves in. Glad to have you in my corner :) .

]]> By: Karen Sugarpants http://www.justonemiss.com/2009/10/15/the-one-about-the-mommy-wars/comment-page-1/#comment-2455 Karen Sugarpants Wed, 28 Oct 2009 15:55:41 +0000 http://www.justonemiss.com/?p=698#comment-2455 Amen. And those who treat me badly? Go in the shit pile, which I ignore. So done! Amen. And those who treat me badly? Go in the shit pile, which I ignore. So done!

]]> By: ali http://www.justonemiss.com/2009/10/15/the-one-about-the-mommy-wars/comment-page-1/#comment-2404 ali Fri, 16 Oct 2009 00:54:21 +0000 http://www.justonemiss.com/?p=698#comment-2404 I'm sorry...but I think those words that were spoken on that Dr. Phil episode are a travesty. whatever...she can think that moms who work are shitty and shouldn't have ever had children to begin with - - - but she should have kept that fucking opinion to herself. It just makes HER look BAD. it's exactly like you say: Because we are human beings and we should treat each other with respect. :) I’m sorry…but I think those words that were spoken on that Dr. Phil episode are a travesty. whatever…she can think that moms who work are shitty and shouldn’t have ever had children to begin with – - – but she should have kept that fucking opinion to herself. It just makes HER look BAD.

it’s exactly like you say: Because we are human beings and we should treat each other with respect.

:)

]]> By: ali (adil320) http://www.justonemiss.com/2009/10/15/the-one-about-the-mommy-wars/comment-page-1/#comment-2403 ali (adil320) Thu, 15 Oct 2009 16:57:52 +0000 http://www.justonemiss.com/?p=698#comment-2403 Well said Miss! I just went back to work, leaving my 2yr old and 8m old behind. I am blessed to not need daycare, and they are mostly with memebers of my family. However, I don't NEED to work. I guess. Maybe. Depends. We can pay our bills without me working. However...we don't have insurance and rely on the state for that. So I'm back to work full time. And honestly? It makes me a better Mom when I am with them. I appreciate all the time I have with them more, and we cuddle and love on each other so much more often. I works for my family. Why should anyone else care? Well said Miss!

I just went back to work, leaving my 2yr old and 8m old behind. I am blessed to not need daycare, and they are mostly with memebers of my family.

However, I don’t NEED to work. I guess. Maybe. Depends.

We can pay our bills without me working.

However…we don’t have insurance and rely on the state for that.

So I’m back to work full time. And honestly? It makes me a better Mom when I am with them. I appreciate all the time I have with them more, and we cuddle and love on each other so much more often.

I works for my family. Why should anyone else care?

]]> By: Tara R. http://www.justonemiss.com/2009/10/15/the-one-about-the-mommy-wars/comment-page-1/#comment-2402 Tara R. Thu, 15 Oct 2009 15:42:30 +0000 http://www.justonemiss.com/?p=698#comment-2402 When my kids were younger I stayed at home by choice, when they were both well ensconced at school I went to work outside our home. Now, I'm home full-time again cuz our economy sucks. Except for the latest job related fiasco, these were my choices. I resented being told 'this or that' was wrong, so would never do that to another woman. We should be supporting each other and not being bitchy, just to be bitchy. When my kids were younger I stayed at home by choice, when they were both well ensconced at school I went to work outside our home. Now, I’m home full-time again cuz our economy sucks. Except for the latest job related fiasco, these were my choices. I resented being told ‘this or that’ was wrong, so would never do that to another woman.

We should be supporting each other and not being bitchy, just to be bitchy.

]]> By: jessie http://www.justonemiss.com/2009/10/15/the-one-about-the-mommy-wars/comment-page-1/#comment-2401 jessie Thu, 15 Oct 2009 15:36:54 +0000 http://www.justonemiss.com/?p=698#comment-2401 *yawn* this drama is so 2005. seriously. *yawn* this drama is so 2005. seriously.

]]> By: Colleen - Mommy Always Wins http://www.justonemiss.com/2009/10/15/the-one-about-the-mommy-wars/comment-page-1/#comment-2400 Colleen - Mommy Always Wins Thu, 15 Oct 2009 15:33:28 +0000 http://www.justonemiss.com/?p=698#comment-2400 What else would we have to write about? Um, we could make lists of the top 10 celebrities we'd like to have sex with, talk about the underpants we're currently wearing or that one time, in high school, with that thing...you know... Dude, ANYTHING but women arguing with people/companies on the fucking Internet. I don't ever express an opinion on this shit online simply because the whole damn thing sickens me. I don't hate Motrin. Or Nestle. Or Deuce. And I work. So there. Any my underpants? Have cute little polka-dots on them. Thanks. What else would we have to write about? Um, we could make lists of the top 10 celebrities we’d like to have sex with, talk about the underpants we’re currently wearing or that one time, in high school, with that thing…you know…

Dude, ANYTHING but women arguing with people/companies on the fucking Internet. I don’t ever express an opinion on this shit online simply because the whole damn thing sickens me. I don’t hate Motrin. Or Nestle. Or Deuce. And I work. So there.

Any my underpants? Have cute little polka-dots on them. Thanks.

]]> By: Burgh Baby http://www.justonemiss.com/2009/10/15/the-one-about-the-mommy-wars/comment-page-1/#comment-2399 Burgh Baby Thu, 15 Oct 2009 15:24:15 +0000 http://www.justonemiss.com/?p=698#comment-2399 I just spent the weekend at a local blogging conference. I presented along with podcasters from the GLBRI community, sports bloggers, political bloggers, the beer guys, moms, dads, college kids, single people. A mommy blogger in the middle of a sea of very different people. Yet, I heard not one single word directed towards anyone that was anything even remotely resembling insulting. It was nothing but supportive everywhere you looked. There were disagreements, absolutely, but the disagreements were intellectual debates, not jealousy-fueled personal attacks. Why can't we get a room full of moms to behave like that? I just spent the weekend at a local blogging conference. I presented along with podcasters from the GLBRI community, sports bloggers, political bloggers, the beer guys, moms, dads, college kids, single people. A mommy blogger in the middle of a sea of very different people. Yet, I heard not one single word directed towards anyone that was anything even remotely resembling insulting. It was nothing but supportive everywhere you looked. There were disagreements, absolutely, but the disagreements were intellectual debates, not jealousy-fueled personal attacks.

Why can’t we get a room full of moms to behave like that?

]]> By: Lynette http://www.justonemiss.com/2009/10/15/the-one-about-the-mommy-wars/comment-page-1/#comment-2398 Lynette Thu, 15 Oct 2009 14:55:26 +0000 http://www.justonemiss.com/?p=698#comment-2398 Yeah...I'm glad I missed it. But. If I had an opinion, why can't women just be happy for other women? Why is there no solidarity? We attack because you stay at home, because you work, because you have a nanny, because you spank...or DON'T spank..WTF, man?! You're right. Just stop it. Please. (Before I punch a bitch in the face and perpetuate the hate...LOL) Yeah…I’m glad I missed it. But. If I had an opinion, why can’t women just be happy for other women? Why is there no solidarity? We attack because you stay at home, because you work, because you have a nanny, because you spank…or DON’T spank..WTF, man?! You’re right. Just stop it. Please. (Before I punch a bitch in the face and perpetuate the hate…LOL)

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