Comments on: Guest Post: Mistakes

By: Costin

Costin — Wed, 10 Feb 2010 14:08:29 +0000

Show must go on ( life must go on ) , be tuff , you are a woman and a mother , life don`t stop here !Leave all behind and make a new life !

By: Nancy

Nancy — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 21:02:04 +0000

I have to say I’m kind of with Adam on this one. God knows I’ve made some HUGE mistakes, but if you were trying to forgive yourself for your transgressions by taking him back as penance, I think you may have set yourself up for disaster. That said, I seriously hope I am wrong and things can work out for the best for all of you.

By: Kellee

Kellee — Tue, 22 Dec 2009 16:12:21 +0000

I wish I had some great advice, but my mind is kind of blown by the whole thing.

I really wish you the best of luck, and hope that your ability to stay in a good place mentally and emotionally remains intact.

By: Hockeymandad

Hockeymandad — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 15:29:56 +0000

As I read this I was amazed that a human being has the capability to be like that. So careless and seemingly without feeling. Alas, it does happen I guess.

Your ability to forgive and support him after all he’s done is an amazing testament to your soul and the love in your heart. I hope he shows the appreciation you deserve. My only suggestion would be to separate your finances as much as possible to protect yourself from his mistakes on a legal perspective.

I think it would be ok, perhaps even the best thing for you, to expel those emotions you are keeping inside. That kind of emotion will only damage your health from the inside out and you need to get it out. None of this is your fault. You don’t deserve to feel fault over his mistakes.

Without knowing the whole story, I only hope you’re staying together for the right reason. The only reason is love. Undying, undeniable love for each other. Anything less, given the extra weight on the relationship, is toxic.

Stay strong and best of luck. I hope you can find peace in the situation.

By: Tracy (@redvu9395)

Tracy (@redvu9395) — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 05:01:02 +0000

I am so sorry that you and your family are going through this. My thoughts and prayers are with you. * hugs *

By: Avitable

Avitable — Fri, 18 Dec 2009 00:22:37 +0000

Forgiveness and determination are not all they’re cracked up to be. I hate when I hear about a couple staying together for the kids, because that’s bullshit. The kids see the resentment, mistrust, and pain, and they think that’s how a normal relationship is.

I’m sorry that you’re going through this, but I can only think that you would have been better off leaving him in the first place and letting him bear sole responsibility for his actions.

I’m sorry if this is shitty, but I have strong feelings about this. It’s just my opinion, though.

By: Denise

Denise — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 23:39:33 +0000

Wow. Your strength is astounding, and I admire it. So many would walk away… so many do today. Yet you’ve found forgiveness and determination and you’ve kept your family together. While I do not know you myself, I could easily sit down and rant about WITH you about this situation… but it would not do any good other than perhaps be a therapeutic period of time of screaming, and laughing and crying. You’ve written this so eloquently, and I pray it served as a therapeutic act. I think its safe to say that all of us reading this will say an extra prayer or send an extra thought or send more love and strength your way as you work through this. You are an inspiration. Best of luck to you and your family.

By: avasmommy

avasmommy — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 22:20:46 +0000

Wow. What a no-win situation for everyone involved. You can’t undo the past, but that doesn’t make it any easier to live in the present. I hope your husband realizes how lucky he is that you have taken him back, and kept your family together. It’s not an easy road to take. I speak from experience. I applaud you for how hard you’ve worked. Feelings of anger and resentment are perfectly normal. Just be careful they don’t’ overshadow all the good. Best of luck. I hope things work out soon.

By: la primera

la primera — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 22:20:13 +0000

Heartbreaking. But her power of forgiveness, speaks to her depth of strength and character. And that will see her through. xoxo

By: Maria

Maria — Thu, 17 Dec 2009 21:30:33 +0000

I think it’s admirable, and says a lot about you as a woman to be able to take him back and accept his mistakes, and his son, and the entire situation as you have done. Many others (myself included) probably would not be as strong. He is a lucky man. I’m sorry you guys are going through what you are. I hope it works out as best for you and your kids as it possibly can.