I’ve been repeating in my head, over and over, “stay out of it. Just stay out of it. Leave it alone. It’s not your fight.” I’ve tried biting my tongue. But damn it, that shit hurts after awhile and I have to say something.
Seriously parents? We need to stop fighting each other.
Moms, I’m looking at you specifically. (Is there daddy blogging drama? Is that like a whole other world I’m not aware of because I don’t have a penis? Or do they just get along BECAUSE they have a penis? I’m not sure.)
Anyways. So this weeks battle is Stay at home moms vs working moms. Oh, but not working moms who don’t have a choice, who NEED their jobs to support their kids. Those bitches be ok. No, this is the working moms who work because they want to. These are the moms who have no problem abandoning their children for jobs.
Did I get that right? I sure hope so.
Please tell me that my readers, my friends, are intelligent enough to see that this is total bullshit right? I mean, this is creating a fight when there isn’t a fight to be had. This is one person’s ignorant opinion, someone who feels they have the right to judge other people with no remorse. And then they get to go on TV for it. And then a bunch of people watch it and say that this person is sticking up for stay at home moms. Uh, what? No. That is not what is happening. At all.
This is an attack. Just an attack to attack and to have fun attacking.
Because that is what some people do. They enjoy the short lived, attention seeking need that is fulfilled by people tweeting about it and writing posts about it. *ahem* They pull the “you don’t have to agree with me card” with an air of superiority and flit on to the next thing they want to poke with a stick.
When is this going to end? It’s hard enough being a parent. Why must we attack each others decisions in life when it comes to raising our kids, or making choices that are going to effect them? Who the hell do we think we are to pass judgement on each other?
It. Needs. To. Stop.
We need to stop acting like the opinions of people who live their life making money off of their hate, is important to any of us. Because it isn’t. But the fall out of these words are.
I work full time. I work full time because I have to. My job is my income. 100%. I receive no money from my son’s dad, as that is our agreement right now. And it should be because we co-parent 100% of the time. I make no money off of this blog with the ONE exception of the SexIs ad, that of which I received a one time payment for having it up for a couple of months. I don’t run ads and I don’t write paid reviews. I don’t work for any other online publications. My 8-4:30 job is my income.
Would I like to stay home? Hell yes I would. But obviously I can’t. Oh, but I don’t fall into this catagory of working moms that we are mad at do I?
Let’s examine that working mom we are supposed to hate shall we? She’s probably married otherwise how else would she be able to work without needing to? Work is her hobby? She decided to leave her kids with a babysitter, or in daycare so that she can pursue a career.
*gasp* How selfish!
No. No, no, no. If she wants to work, then that is HER choice. I especially support that if her kids are in school. One of my close blogging friends has been itching to get back to work and if she did that tomorrow, she would have to put one of her kids in daycare. Does that bother her? A little. What bothers her more is the fact that she is crawling out of her skin a bit to get out and DO something. “Oh but isn’t being a good wife and mother enough?” Fuck that noise. It might be for some, but it doesn’t have to be for all. Some people are programed that way. Should we punish them and bash them in an open forum?
No. Never. Because we are human beings and we should treat each other with respect.
But how easily do we forget that? When we have all the free space to run our mouths, we often forget to be decent with each other.
In the case of my friend, I think it would make her an even better mother and wife and person to be able to do something she enjoys. For some of us, going home after a long day at work is how we unwind. For others, that might be GOING to do work that they enjoy.
We certainly should not judge one another for it.
I often wonder what goes through the minds of people who openly judge other people for choosing to work. I try and define what their definition of a working mom is. Is it someone who goes to an office type setting, somewhere that requires them to leave the house for a set amount of time, earning money for the services they perform?
Then what, someone please explain, is the job description of the stay at home mom who is constantly on twitter? Or maybe at a different conference every other weekend? How about filling their days with blogging events, meet ups, running contests, promoting this, that or the other? Is that not work? Your children are home with you? Are they going out for martini’s at that meet-up in the city? What are your kids doing while you are doing this work? Do you consider yourself a working mom? Would you hire a nanny or the like to give yourself free time to do this kind of stuff?
(FYI, I happen to know and love a lot of people who live and work like this. I respect them. I’m just curious what they consider themselves in this so called battle.)
I have no idea why some people work. Honestly, I don’t really care. Unless you’re going to share some of that cash money with me, I don’t give a shit. Do what you have to do people.
Just stop being so fucking mean to each other.
Bitches, I swear. This is why it’s proven that in any capacity, women cannot get along. Isn’t it time to end that? We won’t because some people still like to be the Mean Girls. The Internet to them is just a solid reminder of how they peaked in high school and now have another way to attack those they see as weak.
We ought to seriously consider putting a stop to it.
But then what would we have to write about?
